Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Gaining ground and weight...
Last night we travelled to my mother's home in Sacramento for a Passover seder. Although born Jewish, Anna has little knowledge of her Jewish heritage and I thought it might be instructive and perhaps bond building for her future (her mother is an ordained Rabbi) if she came along. Anna's weight has virtually soared up to 90lbs and her mood and enthusiasm for life is up and forward moving. I figured if she could emotionally withstand my entire extended family, she could benefit from my mother's cooking. Passover is a big deal to us. Mom was cooking for two weeks beforehand and there were over 20 people at the Seder. Wessley-Anne hasn't looked this good since she was 20 (about 6 years ago). Wess' smile lit the room and it was difficult to not explode with internal pride for the huge corner she has now turned. I'd bet my life that she is DONE with opiates and all the crap they foisted upon her. She clearly sees a bright future ahead for her and the Wessley I've known and raised seems to have finally returned to us.
I am a lucky father. Many fathers aren't. To those fathers my heart goes completely out to you. To Anna's father; a cautious "I think we might just make this..."
Anna has read PREHAB a few times now and is beginning to internalize the 4 P's and the other essentials I recommend in the book. Anna has focused upon her dream of helping others and since this selfless action is one of the essentials I specifically refer to in PREHAB, I couldn't be happier. Her negative thinking has been greatly reduced and she is thoughtful before blurting out reactions to events or discussions. She is recognizing when she allows a past, negative thought to slip into her consciousness and is mindful to recall her mantra "Stay Here Now". Her foot is slowly being yanked from the muck of her past and she is standing more firmly on present ground than she has for sometime, I think. Since she has revived a vision of her dream, she has become forward moving toward her objective of securing that dream. So, she is focused upon her intent to fulfil her purpose of envisioning a dream and making it come true. And, although her dream may be difficult, she is undaunted by whatever negatives about it I throw at her. After fending them off successfully, I backed down and had to give her support and kudos for sticking to her guns, her game plan. We made an agreement that she would not leave the country until was was a minimum weight of 97 with an eye to 100lbs. This is, apparently, a lofty goal. I think not and have mac and cheese, Ensure, and a slew of exercises to commence tomorrow, at the ready. I believe Anna is close to being able to leave here and successfully move forward in her efforts to become healthy and complete her purpose here on Earth: to find a dream and to make that dream a reality. Anna's road is still very difficult, but my faith in her humanity tells me it's a road she will navigate well, at least for the present time.
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I am a lucky father. Many fathers aren't. To those fathers my heart goes completely out to you. To Anna's father; a cautious "I think we might just make this..."
Anna has read PREHAB a few times now and is beginning to internalize the 4 P's and the other essentials I recommend in the book. Anna has focused upon her dream of helping others and since this selfless action is one of the essentials I specifically refer to in PREHAB, I couldn't be happier. Her negative thinking has been greatly reduced and she is thoughtful before blurting out reactions to events or discussions. She is recognizing when she allows a past, negative thought to slip into her consciousness and is mindful to recall her mantra "Stay Here Now". Her foot is slowly being yanked from the muck of her past and she is standing more firmly on present ground than she has for sometime, I think. Since she has revived a vision of her dream, she has become forward moving toward her objective of securing that dream. So, she is focused upon her intent to fulfil her purpose of envisioning a dream and making it come true. And, although her dream may be difficult, she is undaunted by whatever negatives about it I throw at her. After fending them off successfully, I backed down and had to give her support and kudos for sticking to her guns, her game plan. We made an agreement that she would not leave the country until was was a minimum weight of 97 with an eye to 100lbs. This is, apparently, a lofty goal. I think not and have mac and cheese, Ensure, and a slew of exercises to commence tomorrow, at the ready. I believe Anna is close to being able to leave here and successfully move forward in her efforts to become healthy and complete her purpose here on Earth: to find a dream and to make that dream a reality. Anna's road is still very difficult, but my faith in her humanity tells me it's a road she will navigate well, at least for the present time.
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Thursday, March 25, 2010
The Weekend Onward...
The weekend "movie shoot" was a total disaster, but disaster often leads to re-creation and in this case it has.
Both Wessley and Anna were excited as they left for the weekend shoot. However, as inattention to purpose allows, they were side-tracked by a well meaning person who suggested that Wess hook up with her friend "Bobby" who is a well known rock guitarist who just happened to be in Sacramento this past weekend playing a gig. Wess had been sharing sober living digs with him and a couple other folks in a beautiful home in one of LA's many gorgeous hillside communities. Wess had screwed up her stay there and bad feelings had been generated, so Wess saw this as an opportunity for closure with her friend. Instead of going directly to the shoot, Wess and Anna were sidetracked to a Sacramento club. Anna had her expensive cell phone stolen from her and the two were 6 hours late for filming (kudos to them though for, I believe, they did remain off non prescribed meds and/or alcohol and illicit drugs).
Being late for a shoot normally would have been really bad, but the film was a "joke", there was no script, and after much writing and rewriting few of the characters wanted to continue beyond Saturday morning.
Then, Wess and Anna had their fight. It was an immediate friendship killer of a fight. Names were thrown back and forth, as I understand, and it ended with Wess demanding that Anna be sent home.
Of course this did not happen.
A few weeks ago I was facebooked by a friend, Wessley's old karate master, Bob Langley. Bob is an amazing guy and he and Wess were once very, very close. She studied for 6 years and under his tutelage, she received 2 blackbelts. Anyway, I called him when I heard that Wess and Anna were returning to me and that they had been fighting. I knew Wess was a hair away from really getting her life on track, and I wanted to separate the two as soon as possible, so I called Bob Langley. It just so happens that Bob reopened his studio and was looking for someone to handle phones and run errands, clean and generally help out. When I mentioned that Wess needed a job, he immediately jumped on it and offered her a 4 hour per day, 5 day a week, gig that would also allow her to take classes and to, eventually, teach at the school! Well, this job puts Wess exactly back to the point in her life where she diverged from her "dream path", stopped karate and began drug use. Her dream was to do exactly what this job now offers! The job allows her to sleep in as she likes and, leaves her weekends to perfect her stand-up routine (which is hilarious). It also got her out of here as she started work Tuesday! She loves it! This is an extremely easy esteem building gig as she has dozens of small children who will try to emulate everything about her. She will be their "sensai" and, I believe, her selfish, self-abusing drug daze are over. In speaking with her on the phone, her affect is bright, she is forward thinking and moving, and she already has plans for expanding her teaching base and getting Langley's Karate School firmly on the map! Although it took 5 years to get her to me, she was ready for a real rehabilitation to help focus her toward a new (in this case previous employed skills) career. This career follows PREHAB principles to a Tee and that is why I have such great hopes for a permanently successful conclusion. Only time will tell, of course, but if Wessley maintains her stay-here-now focus and that focus is upon her intent to remain healthy, she will accomplish her purpose and fulfil her dreams. This is rehab in it's most concise and excellent form.
With Wessley out of the house (oh, btw, Gabe returned to his mother's after I pointed out she was in need of his assistance. He stayed there for a short while then gravitated to his former girlfriend's house. I think he is still there) I was able to concentrate wholly on Anna.
What a sweetheart. Under all the crap she's managed to heap upon herself and after the hailstorm of self-denigration she has allowed to amass within her being, she is a warm, wonderful, spiritual, loving soul who only wants to help others and feel no internal pain(s). Unlike Wess, Anna is a reader and she read PREHAB thoroughly, and unless she is BSing me completely, she really enjoyed the read. She told me that the work was powerful and that she appreciated the brevity and preciseness of the wording. She also liked that fact that I don't cram a bunch of personal success stories into the book that, really, no one in true need gives a crap about. She likes the way the messages hit home easily and effectively. She gets it.
We talked about the difference between a comprehensive rehab (what I do)and a less thorough "drug rehab". She sees what is going on with Wessley in front of her eyes and she wants the same for herself. I believe Anna is about an inch away from turning her corning, also. We have been talking alot about her being stuck in the past where one foot weighs her down and it is impossible to move forward. We talked about her stepping up into the here and now and letting go of all the crap keeping her trapped in the past with behaviors she no longer desires to have. She is getting clearer by the day. She is slowly gaining some weight. Most importantly, whether she's stroking me or not, she's still here, still breathing, still eating, and telling me she wants to fulfil her dreams again. This can only be good.
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PREHAB: The Essentials for Successful Change
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Both Wessley and Anna were excited as they left for the weekend shoot. However, as inattention to purpose allows, they were side-tracked by a well meaning person who suggested that Wess hook up with her friend "Bobby" who is a well known rock guitarist who just happened to be in Sacramento this past weekend playing a gig. Wess had been sharing sober living digs with him and a couple other folks in a beautiful home in one of LA's many gorgeous hillside communities. Wess had screwed up her stay there and bad feelings had been generated, so Wess saw this as an opportunity for closure with her friend. Instead of going directly to the shoot, Wess and Anna were sidetracked to a Sacramento club. Anna had her expensive cell phone stolen from her and the two were 6 hours late for filming (kudos to them though for, I believe, they did remain off non prescribed meds and/or alcohol and illicit drugs).
Being late for a shoot normally would have been really bad, but the film was a "joke", there was no script, and after much writing and rewriting few of the characters wanted to continue beyond Saturday morning.
Then, Wess and Anna had their fight. It was an immediate friendship killer of a fight. Names were thrown back and forth, as I understand, and it ended with Wess demanding that Anna be sent home.
Of course this did not happen.
A few weeks ago I was facebooked by a friend, Wessley's old karate master, Bob Langley. Bob is an amazing guy and he and Wess were once very, very close. She studied for 6 years and under his tutelage, she received 2 blackbelts. Anyway, I called him when I heard that Wess and Anna were returning to me and that they had been fighting. I knew Wess was a hair away from really getting her life on track, and I wanted to separate the two as soon as possible, so I called Bob Langley. It just so happens that Bob reopened his studio and was looking for someone to handle phones and run errands, clean and generally help out. When I mentioned that Wess needed a job, he immediately jumped on it and offered her a 4 hour per day, 5 day a week, gig that would also allow her to take classes and to, eventually, teach at the school! Well, this job puts Wess exactly back to the point in her life where she diverged from her "dream path", stopped karate and began drug use. Her dream was to do exactly what this job now offers! The job allows her to sleep in as she likes and, leaves her weekends to perfect her stand-up routine (which is hilarious). It also got her out of here as she started work Tuesday! She loves it! This is an extremely easy esteem building gig as she has dozens of small children who will try to emulate everything about her. She will be their "sensai" and, I believe, her selfish, self-abusing drug daze are over. In speaking with her on the phone, her affect is bright, she is forward thinking and moving, and she already has plans for expanding her teaching base and getting Langley's Karate School firmly on the map! Although it took 5 years to get her to me, she was ready for a real rehabilitation to help focus her toward a new (in this case previous employed skills) career. This career follows PREHAB principles to a Tee and that is why I have such great hopes for a permanently successful conclusion. Only time will tell, of course, but if Wessley maintains her stay-here-now focus and that focus is upon her intent to remain healthy, she will accomplish her purpose and fulfil her dreams. This is rehab in it's most concise and excellent form.
With Wessley out of the house (oh, btw, Gabe returned to his mother's after I pointed out she was in need of his assistance. He stayed there for a short while then gravitated to his former girlfriend's house. I think he is still there) I was able to concentrate wholly on Anna.
What a sweetheart. Under all the crap she's managed to heap upon herself and after the hailstorm of self-denigration she has allowed to amass within her being, she is a warm, wonderful, spiritual, loving soul who only wants to help others and feel no internal pain(s). Unlike Wess, Anna is a reader and she read PREHAB thoroughly, and unless she is BSing me completely, she really enjoyed the read. She told me that the work was powerful and that she appreciated the brevity and preciseness of the wording. She also liked that fact that I don't cram a bunch of personal success stories into the book that, really, no one in true need gives a crap about. She likes the way the messages hit home easily and effectively. She gets it.
We talked about the difference between a comprehensive rehab (what I do)and a less thorough "drug rehab". She sees what is going on with Wessley in front of her eyes and she wants the same for herself. I believe Anna is about an inch away from turning her corning, also. We have been talking alot about her being stuck in the past where one foot weighs her down and it is impossible to move forward. We talked about her stepping up into the here and now and letting go of all the crap keeping her trapped in the past with behaviors she no longer desires to have. She is getting clearer by the day. She is slowly gaining some weight. Most importantly, whether she's stroking me or not, she's still here, still breathing, still eating, and telling me she wants to fulfil her dreams again. This can only be good.
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Saturday, March 20, 2010
A weekend off...
Wess received a call from a filmmaker/musician friend of hers asking if she would do a mini-film this weekend in Sacramento. After much thought on my part and assurances from both Wessley and Anna that they would watch one another's back, I let them go. They left yesterday at about 5pm. Last night at about 10pm I received a text stating that Anna had her cell phone stolen and this morning another text reading that they want to come "home". Apparently, things have not worked out as planned. Frankly, I'm glad they were able to reason for themselves that a better place for them to be right now is here, working on their own stability. The fact that they were able to stay together, though, is a great indication that a bond is building between them. I am hopeful this bond will grow and last for each of their sake. Wess also ran into her friend,I'll call him Bobby, a fairly famous musician she was sharing sober digs with in LA last year. This contact appears to have been pretty good timing affording Wess an opportunity for some closure with that phase of her life. Who knows, maybe Wess will return to LA to live one day, but LA isn't the same place it was when I was growing up and the pressures there on young people turn too many of them to do drugs and alcohol. I am hoping she will see a city like San Francisco as her next likely home. It is all very centrally located and one doesn't not need a car. We have started to discuss vocational direction. She is so ingrained in her current lifestyle that in order to maintain it she would have to stay in the entertainment field. She rattled off an hour and a half of stand up jokes that were sophisticated and very funny. SF is a comedy town and she could sleep in as she likes and hit the scene in the evenings. This is her dream. Stand up. I've always thought stand up was her ultimate gig. We'll see if she has the fortitude and perseverance to accomplish this difficult goal.
As for Gabe, I had a contact get hold of his mother and discussed with him her need for his support at home. He will be returning there and hopefully finding work and chipping in on the household finances. I told him he could always return here if he were ever in need. Hopefully, this is resolved with a positive outcome.
I had a talk to Anna's mother today. She called me, which is good considering there was a great deal for me to verify with her. As I suspected, Anna tends to exaggerate more than just a bit and sorting through the truth of things to get to the heart of the matter will be easier now that I know I cannot trust her words yet. This allows me to move forward toward my goals for her. These are twofold at the moment. First of all and critically important is her weight. She is 85 pounds and this is down from the 95 pounds she weighed when she left her last rehab almost 3 weeks ago. Her continued weight loss places her physical self in great jeopardy. I have instructed Wess to make certain that Anna eats continually. Secondly, I must find a way to kick start Anna's imagination so that she begins to dream again. If I can coordinate these two things, I may be able to get her back to some sort of productivity. This is, afterall, the aim of rehab. Restitution. Restructuring. Rebuilding.
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As for Gabe, I had a contact get hold of his mother and discussed with him her need for his support at home. He will be returning there and hopefully finding work and chipping in on the household finances. I told him he could always return here if he were ever in need. Hopefully, this is resolved with a positive outcome.
I had a talk to Anna's mother today. She called me, which is good considering there was a great deal for me to verify with her. As I suspected, Anna tends to exaggerate more than just a bit and sorting through the truth of things to get to the heart of the matter will be easier now that I know I cannot trust her words yet. This allows me to move forward toward my goals for her. These are twofold at the moment. First of all and critically important is her weight. She is 85 pounds and this is down from the 95 pounds she weighed when she left her last rehab almost 3 weeks ago. Her continued weight loss places her physical self in great jeopardy. I have instructed Wess to make certain that Anna eats continually. Secondly, I must find a way to kick start Anna's imagination so that she begins to dream again. If I can coordinate these two things, I may be able to get her back to some sort of productivity. This is, afterall, the aim of rehab. Restitution. Restructuring. Rebuilding.
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Thursday, March 18, 2010
The more the merrier!
Wess is doing extremely well. Having finished reading PREHAB with her, she immediately called several of her "friends" she felt could benefit from the book and/or my counsel. This was followed by a phone call from her mother, my first wife asking if I could take in a temporarily homeless young man, whom I shall refer to as Gabe (since I call him that anyway even though it is not his name). He's been here now 2 days. Gabe is a sweet boy, 18, quiet and reserved but with a startlingly honed sense of humor. He has absolutely no direction at all to move to and through. His mother has been placed into observation in a mental ward in Sacramento and he was staying with his father in Texas, but they could not get along. Apparently, his father drove him to LA and dropped him at the bus station. Somehow my ex found out (I think she is friends with his mom) and, well... Then yesterday, a friend of Wess', whom I shall call Anna, flew up from LA for an indefinite stay. She is 24and waife thin. She has suffered terrible personal physical and psychic trauma. A traffic accident at 18 left her in a coma for a few months, then a year rehabbing physically so she could walk again. Mixes of various drugs prescribed by physicians and gotten off the streets soon led her and her young husband through the perilous world of opiate addiction. He OD'ed in her arms and died and she hasn't been all together here since. There is a great deal of drug use and pain. That was a few years ago now and 23 rehab centers later she is here and I am hoping I can find a way to motivate her to live, truly live, again. She can't remember her dreams and she clutches onto her pain like a frightened child holding a special dolly tightly against her chest at night. Anna uses her pain as a compass for her passing in this lifetime. She navigates daily through waters of suffering and fear. Somehow I must help her learn to stay clear of rough seas and sail only through the placid waters of her wildest dreams. Only there will she find a new course to take; and there to formulate a new plan of action.
As for Wess, I believe she is better now than she has been in a couple years. I am really grateful for the opportunity to help alleviate her pain and proud that she is sticking to it, working out regularly now, and starting to form her plan of action for her immediate future. I am trying to let both girls absolve themselves from any past, negative experiences and to stay intent and focused upon only the absolute here and now. It's a constant struggle to over rule old tapes-to cease refering to the past and to disallow past impressions to affect present behaviors. With bruised and damaged folks like Wess and Anna, this process takes continual reformation and extreme patience. If all goes well these two can be a strong source of encouragement for one another now and in the future.
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As for Wess, I believe she is better now than she has been in a couple years. I am really grateful for the opportunity to help alleviate her pain and proud that she is sticking to it, working out regularly now, and starting to form her plan of action for her immediate future. I am trying to let both girls absolve themselves from any past, negative experiences and to stay intent and focused upon only the absolute here and now. It's a constant struggle to over rule old tapes-to cease refering to the past and to disallow past impressions to affect present behaviors. With bruised and damaged folks like Wess and Anna, this process takes continual reformation and extreme patience. If all goes well these two can be a strong source of encouragement for one another now and in the future.
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Monday, March 15, 2010
A Turning Point
This was supposed to be the day where Wess was to begin the hard work we all do in life on a daily basis. Her usual MO is to sleep till noonish then talk on the phone, pull animal cards and generally screw off her day till she (may or may not) attend a meeting (AA) or attend to some other drug induced unfortunate that she knows. We had a terrific weekend and she cooperated fairly well with everything. She walked about a mile on Saturday and another mile and a hlf on Sunday. Then, last night, I noticed a pill bottle by her bedside. Seriquel. It's a thought organizer, an anti-psychotic. She had not told me about these pills before so I was naturally curious. When I questioned her about these pills this morning and told her that she had no need of marijuana if she were taking these pills, her "addict within" chose to use the opportunity to react to me like a child to a father, not a patient to a therapist. She began yelling and telling me off for questioning the need for the pills. These behaviors of hers I've witnessed in the past many times, starting as a young girl. Maybe it was my overindulgence as a parent that gives her mind that she can treat anybody this way, yet especially someone trying to help her-save her. I told her she was over reacting and that what I saw really going on was that this treatment is working and the addict inside Wess knows this. That addict within her is trying desperately to escape and leave so that the addictive need can be satiated. This is not something she wants to hear and has threatened to leave. I will not stop her from doing so. I must somehow, if we are to continue this, find a way to get her to acknowledge the need to separate me as her dad from me as a counselor. Hopefully, we will get over this impass. I have asked her to get out of bed and shower (it's now almost 2pyem) and she is doing so. I've heated the yoga room to 115 degrees and I'm hoping a good long sweat will assist in her detox. I'll read the rest of PREHAB to her. She loves the book and she sees the wisdom it contains for her. If she can just get over herself, swallow her pride and accept her responsibility to her own humanity, everything should work out ok. She needs to trust me. She needs to know, again and again, that I care for her as a counselor and I love her as a father. Maybe I'll get the chance to reiterate this to her this afternoon as we stretch out.
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Friday, March 12, 2010
She has finally arrived!
It's taken nearly 5 years for Wessley to finally come up to me for a proper rehab. "I need to save my life! I'm trying to save my life" was what she yelled at me five nights ago upon her arrival here in Tahoe. She looked as pale as the icy snow falling all around her as she shivered at the doorstep.
I had been waiting for this day a very long time. I'd written a book (Prehab) for her during one of her detox and rehabilitation stabs. The book was meant as a guide for her while I could not be in her physical presence. I wrote it almost as a mea culpa for the suffering my opiate addicted daughter had to endure daily. I wrote this book so that other parents of addicts or alcoholics wouldn't have to repeatedly feel what I repeatedly felt everytime Wess had to return to a detox or rehab facility. And this parental guilt was compounded by the fact that I was supposed to be some award winning rehab counselor and yet I could not prevent my own daughter from falling prey to the dis-ease and sorrows addiction creates. So, I was hoping, praying-not as a counselor, but as a parent-that the words contained in my book could support and surround her in the still of so many dark nights ahead for her. But, addiction is a persistant and insideous bugger and had wound it's tenticles deeply around my talented and beautiful 26 year old daughter. My pride and joy crushed by drug demons that simply would not go away.
She was in no condition to read my book. Hell, she couldn't have read the back of a cereal box when she was deeply into it. And, she pushed away anyone who tried to help. But, finally, she's here.
We've been together for 5 days now and she hasn't bolted, though she's thought about it, yet. Her trust in me as a counselor seems to be the motivating factor in her return to me, not any particular parenting skills I may possess. Wess stated that she's "seen me help so many others..." Well, now maybe it's her turn.
Wess has been fairly successful in her attempts to stay clean, but yet another new boyfriend-one she thought she could assist in his efforts to stay clean- has gotten her re-involved with speed which ultimately led her back to her drug of choice, opiates. Her recent efforts to stay clean have greatly helped her detox and I have let her sleep off the drugs she has ingested over the past couple weeks (maybe more, who knows) and we have started quietly sitting in the hot yoga room, sweating, while I read her PREHAB.
She tells me she likes the book.
She still here.
This is all good.
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I had been waiting for this day a very long time. I'd written a book (Prehab) for her during one of her detox and rehabilitation stabs. The book was meant as a guide for her while I could not be in her physical presence. I wrote it almost as a mea culpa for the suffering my opiate addicted daughter had to endure daily. I wrote this book so that other parents of addicts or alcoholics wouldn't have to repeatedly feel what I repeatedly felt everytime Wess had to return to a detox or rehab facility. And this parental guilt was compounded by the fact that I was supposed to be some award winning rehab counselor and yet I could not prevent my own daughter from falling prey to the dis-ease and sorrows addiction creates. So, I was hoping, praying-not as a counselor, but as a parent-that the words contained in my book could support and surround her in the still of so many dark nights ahead for her. But, addiction is a persistant and insideous bugger and had wound it's tenticles deeply around my talented and beautiful 26 year old daughter. My pride and joy crushed by drug demons that simply would not go away.
She was in no condition to read my book. Hell, she couldn't have read the back of a cereal box when she was deeply into it. And, she pushed away anyone who tried to help. But, finally, she's here.
We've been together for 5 days now and she hasn't bolted, though she's thought about it, yet. Her trust in me as a counselor seems to be the motivating factor in her return to me, not any particular parenting skills I may possess. Wess stated that she's "seen me help so many others..." Well, now maybe it's her turn.
Wess has been fairly successful in her attempts to stay clean, but yet another new boyfriend-one she thought she could assist in his efforts to stay clean- has gotten her re-involved with speed which ultimately led her back to her drug of choice, opiates. Her recent efforts to stay clean have greatly helped her detox and I have let her sleep off the drugs she has ingested over the past couple weeks (maybe more, who knows) and we have started quietly sitting in the hot yoga room, sweating, while I read her PREHAB.
She tells me she likes the book.
She still here.
This is all good.
www.prehab2rehab.com
PREHAB: The Essentials for Successful Change
Available at www.Lulu.com and www.Amazon.com