Thursday, March 25, 2010
The Weekend Onward...
The weekend "movie shoot" was a total disaster, but disaster often leads to re-creation and in this case it has.
Both Wessley and Anna were excited as they left for the weekend shoot. However, as inattention to purpose allows, they were side-tracked by a well meaning person who suggested that Wess hook up with her friend "Bobby" who is a well known rock guitarist who just happened to be in Sacramento this past weekend playing a gig. Wess had been sharing sober living digs with him and a couple other folks in a beautiful home in one of LA's many gorgeous hillside communities. Wess had screwed up her stay there and bad feelings had been generated, so Wess saw this as an opportunity for closure with her friend. Instead of going directly to the shoot, Wess and Anna were sidetracked to a Sacramento club. Anna had her expensive cell phone stolen from her and the two were 6 hours late for filming (kudos to them though for, I believe, they did remain off non prescribed meds and/or alcohol and illicit drugs).
Being late for a shoot normally would have been really bad, but the film was a "joke", there was no script, and after much writing and rewriting few of the characters wanted to continue beyond Saturday morning.
Then, Wess and Anna had their fight. It was an immediate friendship killer of a fight. Names were thrown back and forth, as I understand, and it ended with Wess demanding that Anna be sent home.
Of course this did not happen.
A few weeks ago I was facebooked by a friend, Wessley's old karate master, Bob Langley. Bob is an amazing guy and he and Wess were once very, very close. She studied for 6 years and under his tutelage, she received 2 blackbelts. Anyway, I called him when I heard that Wess and Anna were returning to me and that they had been fighting. I knew Wess was a hair away from really getting her life on track, and I wanted to separate the two as soon as possible, so I called Bob Langley. It just so happens that Bob reopened his studio and was looking for someone to handle phones and run errands, clean and generally help out. When I mentioned that Wess needed a job, he immediately jumped on it and offered her a 4 hour per day, 5 day a week, gig that would also allow her to take classes and to, eventually, teach at the school! Well, this job puts Wess exactly back to the point in her life where she diverged from her "dream path", stopped karate and began drug use. Her dream was to do exactly what this job now offers! The job allows her to sleep in as she likes and, leaves her weekends to perfect her stand-up routine (which is hilarious). It also got her out of here as she started work Tuesday! She loves it! This is an extremely easy esteem building gig as she has dozens of small children who will try to emulate everything about her. She will be their "sensai" and, I believe, her selfish, self-abusing drug daze are over. In speaking with her on the phone, her affect is bright, she is forward thinking and moving, and she already has plans for expanding her teaching base and getting Langley's Karate School firmly on the map! Although it took 5 years to get her to me, she was ready for a real rehabilitation to help focus her toward a new (in this case previous employed skills) career. This career follows PREHAB principles to a Tee and that is why I have such great hopes for a permanently successful conclusion. Only time will tell, of course, but if Wessley maintains her stay-here-now focus and that focus is upon her intent to remain healthy, she will accomplish her purpose and fulfil her dreams. This is rehab in it's most concise and excellent form.
With Wessley out of the house (oh, btw, Gabe returned to his mother's after I pointed out she was in need of his assistance. He stayed there for a short while then gravitated to his former girlfriend's house. I think he is still there) I was able to concentrate wholly on Anna.
What a sweetheart. Under all the crap she's managed to heap upon herself and after the hailstorm of self-denigration she has allowed to amass within her being, she is a warm, wonderful, spiritual, loving soul who only wants to help others and feel no internal pain(s). Unlike Wess, Anna is a reader and she read PREHAB thoroughly, and unless she is BSing me completely, she really enjoyed the read. She told me that the work was powerful and that she appreciated the brevity and preciseness of the wording. She also liked that fact that I don't cram a bunch of personal success stories into the book that, really, no one in true need gives a crap about. She likes the way the messages hit home easily and effectively. She gets it.
We talked about the difference between a comprehensive rehab (what I do)and a less thorough "drug rehab". She sees what is going on with Wessley in front of her eyes and she wants the same for herself. I believe Anna is about an inch away from turning her corning, also. We have been talking alot about her being stuck in the past where one foot weighs her down and it is impossible to move forward. We talked about her stepping up into the here and now and letting go of all the crap keeping her trapped in the past with behaviors she no longer desires to have. She is getting clearer by the day. She is slowly gaining some weight. Most importantly, whether she's stroking me or not, she's still here, still breathing, still eating, and telling me she wants to fulfil her dreams again. This can only be good.
www.prehab2rehab.com
PREHAB: The Essentials for Successful Change
Available at www.Lulu.com and www.Amazon.com
Both Wessley and Anna were excited as they left for the weekend shoot. However, as inattention to purpose allows, they were side-tracked by a well meaning person who suggested that Wess hook up with her friend "Bobby" who is a well known rock guitarist who just happened to be in Sacramento this past weekend playing a gig. Wess had been sharing sober living digs with him and a couple other folks in a beautiful home in one of LA's many gorgeous hillside communities. Wess had screwed up her stay there and bad feelings had been generated, so Wess saw this as an opportunity for closure with her friend. Instead of going directly to the shoot, Wess and Anna were sidetracked to a Sacramento club. Anna had her expensive cell phone stolen from her and the two were 6 hours late for filming (kudos to them though for, I believe, they did remain off non prescribed meds and/or alcohol and illicit drugs).
Being late for a shoot normally would have been really bad, but the film was a "joke", there was no script, and after much writing and rewriting few of the characters wanted to continue beyond Saturday morning.
Then, Wess and Anna had their fight. It was an immediate friendship killer of a fight. Names were thrown back and forth, as I understand, and it ended with Wess demanding that Anna be sent home.
Of course this did not happen.
A few weeks ago I was facebooked by a friend, Wessley's old karate master, Bob Langley. Bob is an amazing guy and he and Wess were once very, very close. She studied for 6 years and under his tutelage, she received 2 blackbelts. Anyway, I called him when I heard that Wess and Anna were returning to me and that they had been fighting. I knew Wess was a hair away from really getting her life on track, and I wanted to separate the two as soon as possible, so I called Bob Langley. It just so happens that Bob reopened his studio and was looking for someone to handle phones and run errands, clean and generally help out. When I mentioned that Wess needed a job, he immediately jumped on it and offered her a 4 hour per day, 5 day a week, gig that would also allow her to take classes and to, eventually, teach at the school! Well, this job puts Wess exactly back to the point in her life where she diverged from her "dream path", stopped karate and began drug use. Her dream was to do exactly what this job now offers! The job allows her to sleep in as she likes and, leaves her weekends to perfect her stand-up routine (which is hilarious). It also got her out of here as she started work Tuesday! She loves it! This is an extremely easy esteem building gig as she has dozens of small children who will try to emulate everything about her. She will be their "sensai" and, I believe, her selfish, self-abusing drug daze are over. In speaking with her on the phone, her affect is bright, she is forward thinking and moving, and she already has plans for expanding her teaching base and getting Langley's Karate School firmly on the map! Although it took 5 years to get her to me, she was ready for a real rehabilitation to help focus her toward a new (in this case previous employed skills) career. This career follows PREHAB principles to a Tee and that is why I have such great hopes for a permanently successful conclusion. Only time will tell, of course, but if Wessley maintains her stay-here-now focus and that focus is upon her intent to remain healthy, she will accomplish her purpose and fulfil her dreams. This is rehab in it's most concise and excellent form.
With Wessley out of the house (oh, btw, Gabe returned to his mother's after I pointed out she was in need of his assistance. He stayed there for a short while then gravitated to his former girlfriend's house. I think he is still there) I was able to concentrate wholly on Anna.
What a sweetheart. Under all the crap she's managed to heap upon herself and after the hailstorm of self-denigration she has allowed to amass within her being, she is a warm, wonderful, spiritual, loving soul who only wants to help others and feel no internal pain(s). Unlike Wess, Anna is a reader and she read PREHAB thoroughly, and unless she is BSing me completely, she really enjoyed the read. She told me that the work was powerful and that she appreciated the brevity and preciseness of the wording. She also liked that fact that I don't cram a bunch of personal success stories into the book that, really, no one in true need gives a crap about. She likes the way the messages hit home easily and effectively. She gets it.
We talked about the difference between a comprehensive rehab (what I do)and a less thorough "drug rehab". She sees what is going on with Wessley in front of her eyes and she wants the same for herself. I believe Anna is about an inch away from turning her corning, also. We have been talking alot about her being stuck in the past where one foot weighs her down and it is impossible to move forward. We talked about her stepping up into the here and now and letting go of all the crap keeping her trapped in the past with behaviors she no longer desires to have. She is getting clearer by the day. She is slowly gaining some weight. Most importantly, whether she's stroking me or not, she's still here, still breathing, still eating, and telling me she wants to fulfil her dreams again. This can only be good.
www.prehab2rehab.com
PREHAB: The Essentials for Successful Change
Available at www.Lulu.com and www.Amazon.com
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